
“Bad things do happen; how I respond to them defines my character and the quality of my life. I can choose to sit in perpetual sadness, immobilized by the gravity of my loss, or I can choose to rise from the pain and treasure the most precious gift I have – life itself” –Walter Anderson
Hey guys!
WHOA! November is turning out to be one busy month. My boyfriend and I are in the middle of remodeling our sim. We thought it would be nice to have a big house filled with holiday feels. I’d like to thank people for the overwhelmingly positive response to my last blog! Your kind words really mean so much to me!
I want to talk quickly about blocking people for self-care. I’m also feeling very vulnerable about talking about this? But I was in a situation where after the millionth “I’m sorry” I decided it was time to block. I’m a firm believer that apologies that aren’t met with actual change are performative. And they’re bullshit.. We talk about blocking or muting when it comes to trolls. We don’t talk about muting and blocking when it comes to relationships. Or former relationships. Or friendships or former friendships. Because sometimes. Ya just have to block. Not because they are a bad person. But because they have been a bad person to you.
It takes one bad action to change your perspective on someone forever. I think it’s healthy to block someone for yourself. if I need to not exist to you on social media and I need you not to exist to me. And I need you stop making me part of your narrative. Because you’ve hurt me to the point where I can’t have a good day because I’m reminded of the bad things you’ve done to me. Then I reserve the right to block/mute/ban. I’ve noticed people tend to be like emotional vampires. They stay stuck in one mode, reading over everything you say and drawing their own absurd conclusions. They’ll suck up energy. and linger when theirs no need to especially when someone has clearly moved on. They’ll linger because perhaps they have nothing better to do? People have an aversion to hearing how you hurt them. They fire back with “you hurt me too’s” or “It was a bad day…”
People like this stay stuck. They stay stuck in the past because looking to the future frightens them. I don’t believe in that. I believe sometimes it’s best to let someone go before they hurt you even more. I believe in the good in people. I believe in remembering the good in people and dusting off your shoulders and moving forward. I wish these people had enough heart and self-love to do the same. Sometimes the healthiest and most spiritual cleansing thing you can do. Is taking a hard look at yourself in the mirror. Judge your own actions. As if they were being done to you. And ask yourself not how you can be a better person. But how you can be the best version of yourself. A good friend of mine recently told me “Life is a mirror, it’s reflective of who you are. If your friends cut you out of their lives completely. Then chances are, you handed them the scissors.”
So, here’s to being unstuck.
Good luck. -M
P.S Special thanks to the amazing minds at AviGlam for my glow up!
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